Positive Reinforcement to Cure a Porn Addict

It has become commonly understood among mental health professionals that positive reinforcement is far more effective a technique than negative reinforcement. However, in practice, this can be a very significant challenge. In the case of porn addiction, those involved are at a highly emotionally charged state. The addict is embarassed, frustrated and maybe even physically weakened (i.e. from lack of sleep). The spouse or significant other is insulted, hurt, perhaps feeling betrayed, and usually, there has been a lot of fighting and hurting going on within the relationship around the issue of pornography and using it for sexual satisfaction.

Recovery systems have been defined by therapists and mental health professional to provide people with a framework from which to motivate addicts into treatment. Being nice and using positive reinforcement is more effective and healthier for all involved. Consider, for example, making a list of the REWARDS that will motivate the addict -that are not detrimental in any way to his health — and find ways to introduce those things at the right moments. Unlike insulting and shaming him, the likelihood of getting his agreement to seek help is far greater, when using positive reinforcement.

Research shows that family members can learn techniques to get their loved ones into addiction treatment and help the treatment succeed. Consider that it is easier to get someone to listen to kind and encouraging words than to harsh words and criticism. Threatening can be counter productive and only make the addict more resistant to you and your eagerness to help.

Once in a recovery program, family and friends who are aware of the situation should be briefed on how to provide positive reinforcement and act as motivators. This can make a world of a difference in achieving success and a cure.

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